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Perpetual Virginity of Mary

31 May 2015, by Rev. Fr. Joel Okojie OSA in Mater Dei

MaryThe perpetual virginity of the blessed virgin Mary has remained controversial to many Christians, especially the none Catholics. Even some very few Catholics cannot really explain their faith; they get confused when challenged to explain it. Our none catholic friends often ask us to show them where it is in the bible as if we don’t believe in the bible, we do, and in fact, very strongly. We also believe in the Sacred Tradition, which existed before the bible was compiled, though not superior to the Bible. Neither does the bible condemn the Sacred Tradition Rather, it confirms it. (read more about this tradition in the column for doctrine under the title “the faith of the Catholic Church”).

Mary’s perpetual virginity has been the teaching of the Catholic Church; it is a “traditional faith” that we are very proud to preach. Our fathers in the faith preached it, we are preaching it, and generations after us will preach it. Our none Catholic brothers and sisters do not accept this doctrine; they rise against it with all their strength using the scriptures to defend their arguments. Well, I do not argue about my faith, I teach it. Whether you accept it or not, we are brothers and sisters in faith in Christ Jesus.

Talking about the perpetual virginity of the blessed virgin Mary, the none Catholics argue that Mary was a virgin before Christ but not after Christ. They have sound arguments and scripture passages to support their points, but there is a need to look deeper into the scriptures. This doctrine may sound so unbelievable to so many, yes, whatever is not possible and unimaginable for man is very possible and easy for God. They argue, using the gospel of Matthew 13:55-56 and 1:24-25.

Is not this the carpenter’s Son? Is not his mother called Mary? And are not his brethren James and Joseph and Simon and Judas? are not all his sisters with us? Mt. 13:55-56.

When Joseph woke from sleep, he did as the Angel of the Lord commanded him; he took his wife, but knew her not until she had borne a Son, and he called his name Jesus. Mt. 1:24-25.

The above scripture passages seem to give %100 support to the arguments against Mary’s perpetual virginity; yes, but don’t rush to a conclusion. The first quote (Mt. 13) suggests that Jesus had at least six younger ones: James, Joseph, Simon, Judas, and at least two sisters, which count against the doctrine of the perpetual virginity of Mary. Again, the second quote (Mt.1) suggests that after the birth of Jesus, Mary lost her virginity. Sounds logical, but let’s look deeper into the scriptures.

virginity of MaryBefore now, you must have heard that the word “brother” in the scripture has wide meaning; it could mean siblings orvirginity distant relations. Let’s take, for example, James mentioned as the brother of Jesus in Mt. 13:55. The impression we are given by those who argue against Mary’s perpetual virginity is that James and his brothers and sisters had the same father and mother as Jesus (Mary and Joseph). In Galatians 1:18-19, the bible tells us that Paul went up to Jerusalem to visit Cephas, he stayed with him for fifteen days, but he was unable to see any of the other apostles except James the Lord’s brother. Here again, James is referred to as the Lord’s brother, but note that this James referred to as the Lord’s brother was an apostle. Among the 12 apostles, two were named James; one was the Son of Zebedee (Lk. 5:10) and the other, the Son of Alphaeus (Mt.10:1-3), none was the Son of Joseph, yet Paul referred to him as the brother of Jesus. Probably, James was related to Jesus and was referred to as the brother of Jesus but certainly not of the same parents. There was another Mary with the mother of Jesus at the foot of the cross; she gave birth to James and his brother Joseph (Mt.27:56). So, the Bible talks about the brothers and sisters of Jesus does not mean that Mary gave birth to other children. The Church has always understood these passages as not referring to other children of the Virgin Mary. In fact, James and Joseph, “brothers of Jesus,” are the Sons of another Mary, a disciple of Christ, whom St. Matthew significantly calls “the other Mary.” They are close relations of Jesus, according to an Old Testament expression. CCC 500.

Let us look at the second scripture passage most people use against the doctrine of Mary’s perpetual virginity that is the one quoted above, Mt. 1:24-25. They argue that the bible says Joseph knew her not until she had her son (firstborn). There are two arguments they present here: The first one is that the use of “firstborn” suggests that there were other children and secondly that the word “until” also suggests that a time came when Joseph knew Mary. Now let’s look at these two points separately.

The use of “firstborn Son” does not suggest that there were other children; no. Biblically, the name “firstborn Son” was special to God and the Israelites because God had made it. In Exodus 13:1-2, God ordered the people to consecrate all firstborn to him, consecrate to me all firstborn; whatever is the first to open the womb among the people of Israel, both of man and beast, is mine. So, firstborn use does not necessarily suggest that there were other children, firstborn were special, and they were so-called because they specially belong to God.

The use of the word “until” also does not necessarily imply that there were other children after Jesus; neither does it mean that they knew each other after that. It is part of the idiomatic expression used in the bible, like in 1Cor. 15:25. Here the bible says Jesus will reign until he has put all his enemies under his feet. Does that mean after he had put his enemies under his feet, he would stop reign?

If Mary had other children, where were they when their “elder brother” was being arrested, tortured, crucified, and buried? He rose and ascended, and nothing was said about them? where were they when Jesus handed “their mother” to John, the apostle, to take care of? Does it mean they had no home that Mary had to stay with the apostles? The doctrine of the perpetual virginity of Mary is a dogma in the Catholic Church, it is the faith of our fathers, and we are proud of it.

  • Omeogu Ndidi Felicity Reply

    Thanks Father for this well explained passages.Our separated brethren don’t get it even when we explain to them just as I was explaining to my colleague. I think they need to visit your blog for more wisdom. Once again thanks for educating us more. May God bless you and happy new month.

  • Ada Reply

    Wao! very much blessed by this explanation mostly the last paragragh ” Where were they when their elder brother was arrested, tortured, crucified and was buried”? infact this Last paragragh has explained it all. More grease to ur power Fr Joel.

  • akaeze chukwudalu kyrian oscar Reply

    there is a place in the old testament that says something about gate that the Lord will pass through and no one else will pass through it … and that him God will teach his people himself… this must be talking about the coming of Jesus which I am sure, so it also goes to prove of Mary ever virgin